Do you work differently with men?

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No — I work with everyone as they present. There's no separate approach for men versus women; everyone brings their own uniqueness, met on its own terms. But I understand that for many men, walking into a therapy room isn't straightforward. Vulnerability isn't always something you've been given permission to practise, and that changes how the door needs to open.

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What that looks like in practice

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I don't expect anyone to arrive ready to talk about how they feel. Sessions might start with small talk, shared interests, or something practical — whatever helps you settle before the harder material needs to come up. Respect and comfort come first; the rest follows in its own time.

I take seriously that men are more likely to reach crisis points without reaching out first, and less likely to have practised talking about what's going on underneath. That's exactly why I want counselling to feel accessible rather than like one more place you have to perform being fine.

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However you find your way in —

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• Know you are welcome.

• You can express all of it — sadness, happiness, relief, anxiety.

• If you're angry, tell me, and we'll work with it.

• You'll be offered a warm drink.

• I don't judge.

• We'll start and find a way, even on the weeks you don't know what to bring.

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